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did not seem to recognize him or remember any of the good times our families had shared. How
sad! At the time, my father was beginning to show a rapidly developing major loss of mental
capacity which, in a very few years, lead to his not being able to remember anything either and
he passed away in 2002. I was glad to find out later, after Aunt Pam had passed away, that she
did not have Alzheimer’s disease and the reason for her being at the V.A. was because she was
working there caring for and fighting on behalf of the many veterans who needed her help. I am
quite bewildered, even to this day, why Aunt Pam did not, or would not, recall the wonderful
relationship between our two families, despite the passing of time.
The very same year my dad died, Aunt Pam was 79 years old. That was also the year the
Veterans Administration was trying to cut cost and considered, maybe because of her age, Aunt
Pam to be “excessive staff.” When the rumor about her pending termination got out, a massive
protest was triggered in front of the Sepulveda Veteran’s Hospital, which made news paper
headlines. Those protests resulted in this beloved lady being assured her job was safe and that
she would be allowed to carry on her mission for the heroic men and women she so dearly loved!
Aunt Pam continued full time at her post until 2007 when she retired at the formidable age of 87
after 35 years of service. In retrospect had I know my father was mistaken in his assessment of
Aunt Pam’s mental facility and why he saw her at the Veteran’s Hospital, things might have
been different and I could have seen that dear lady once again; regrettably it was never meant to
be.
My mother and father got a divorce around 1969 and because of that traumatic event, we lost our
beloved home on Stern Avenue in Sherman Oaks, CA. My dad designed and had that house
built when I was five years old, just after WWII; it is a loss that I can’t seem to shake and
strangely haunts me to this very day. The good thing for my mom surrounding all of these
painful events was that she eventually met a wonderful man who loved her and my kid brother
and happily remarried; yet Uncle Audie, who was like my mom’s younger brother, always kept
in touch.
Before the sun came up on the morning of February 9, 1971, my mother stood at the door saying
goodbye to her new husband of only a few years. As he was leaving, he paused and turned
partially around as if to say something, but because he was running late he appeared to change
his mind and perhaps thought they could talk that evening. A short time later, around 6:02 a.m.,
a 6.7 earthquake hit the San Fernando Valley where we lived. All of the telephones and power
were knocked out. The San Fernando Valley was devastated. Mom believed that her husband
was probably over in the next valley by now and because of the assumed devastation from the
earthquake, knew it would probably be a few days before she would hear from him. Later on
that day, after the power was restored, she (like millions of others) was glued to the television
set. The news was gruesome. The first deaths reported of that terrible earthquake happened to
one poor guy and a passenger who were driving in a small pickup truck that had the misfortune
of passing under the I-14 freeway in Los Angeles County when the quake hit. All you could see
was the cab condensed into about 14 inches with an arm hanging outside of the cab with a
wristwatch that had stopped at the exact time of the earthquake. My mom was a very loving
lady, and she prayed for several days for those men and their poor families. Several days later
she heard a knock at the door. She opened it to see a policeman standing there. He was sorry to
have to inform her that her husband was killed when the earthquake hit and he and his partner