87
L: My father was born on March 3
rd
, I think he was born in ’48
or ’46, not sure, and he died May 29
th
, 1988. 1987. 1989. Now, how old
was I?
Q: Why don’t you think about Lacey, your oldest child? Weren’t
you about to have her?
L: I already had her by time he died. I had flown out here from
California, and I thought to myself that I was going to be here for
about a week, and I wanted to visit some friends and I wanted to see
Faye [Laura’s mother] and see my grandma. I thought that I wanted
to get that stuff out of the way and then I will be able to visit my dad.
So, I put him off. I had baby Lacey with me the whole time, and on the
third day [of the week-long visit] I got home, but when I saw him, he
told me to call 911.
Laura’s father was an alcoholic. She knew that fact for years
now and claimed the big reason for his drinking is because he spent
time being a part of the Vietnam War. Laura’s father was considered
a functioning alcoholic; and, while he tried very hard not to drink,
Laura remembered all the times he had her go to great lengths to
get a bottle of alcohol to sate his desire to drink. Which is why,
when it came to the very moment her father needed her to call 911,
needed his daughter to do something for him yet again, Laura hesi-
tated. She thought that he was having withdrawal symptoms, noth-
ing too serious and in need of 911, but when it became clear it’s
more than that, Laura made the 911 call.
L: I beat myself up for it, not calling right away. The ambulance
did arrive, and I even got ahold of Faye in that time too so that she
could watch over baby Lacey while I ride in the ambulance with Dad.
When she climbed into the ambulance, Laura didn’t think this
is the last time she’ll get to be with her father. Instead, she climbed
in, took ahold of his hand, and reassured him that everything will be
okay. Fully believing that the visit to the hospital will just affirm all