C.R.A.M Parent's Study Guide
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Many times when I would work undercover chat investigations, I would receive flattery from
predators just seeing my profile picture which was only an image of my eye with a little bit of
my bangs. They would ask for more pictures after learning I was only 13 years old.
Precocious Conversation - This is a way to feel out the child and see if they are interested. The
conversation will start out asking if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, if they’ve ever kissed and
then if they’ve done more. If the child reveals personal details about past relationships then the
predator has started the process of gaining their trust.
The escalation may lead to asking them what
the child is wearing, looking to see if the child will
be willing to divulge. This may lead to
conversation about masturbation, sexual
contact, or sharing links to pornography or child
sexual abuse material.
Photo sharing- As the predator feels out the
child’s responses to the above topics they will
either first send a naked image to the child to
gauge interest in sexual talk or contact. They
might ask the child to send naked images of
themselves. Most children want reassurance
that they are beautiful with and without clothes
on to feel better about themselves, not realizing
that it’s causing them harm.
Privacy - If you see your child is being
asked to keep a conversation secret, it
should raise a flag. Portions of the
conversation may have already been
deleted by the time you read it so be aware
you may have missed grooming behavior or
sharing of images.
Pressure - Blackmail threats come in different
forms and can lead to what is called sextortion.
When a child is asked to send naked images
and does, the predator may request more
images and threaten to expose the child to
family and friends if they don’t send more.
Images then lead to videos and/or requirement
of sexual acts. Those images and videos are
eventually shared on adult sites or sold on the
dark web. This is considered sextortion.
Another form of blackmail is when the predator
requests money or they will expose the child’s
photos on the open web for everyone to see.
Many children have committed suicide from
these type of threats.
Presents - The predator will try trickery such
as sending gifts to win the trust of the child if
other grooming tactics are not working. They
may send gift cards (even electronic, so
monitor their email), clothing, cell phones, or
jewelry. Be mindful of the packages in the mail
and if your child has extra Robux or Vbux on
their gaming platforms.
Pulling away - Another form of grooming is
through emotional/verbal abuse from the
predator. They will reinforce to the child that
they are the only ones who truly understand
them and care about them and that the child
should be making more time for them if they
cared about them too. The predator may
even threaten to “break up” or end
communication if the child doesn’t give in to
their wishes. Look for signs in the
conversations that the predator is possessive.
Be aware of these signs of grooming
behaviors to keep your kids safe from
predators. One of the ways to reduce the risk
of these situations is to be strategic about
how you manage technology in your home.